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It’s come to my attention that there are lot of people out there who can’t sleep during wedding planning. This is a serious issue. I know some of you probably remember back when I suggested you sleep less just to survive working with children. I stand by it; however, that is a very specific issue for a very specific set of people and it doesn’t last forever. In fact, I’m almost out of that phase myself. So you will have to trust me when I say I’m being sincere here – Get some sleep before your wedding, friends!
Actually, get some sleep even if it’s not your wedding. Are you planning a wedding? Participating in one? These are stressful events for everyone involved (shout out especially to MOH’s – check out my budget tips here). Surveys show even your guests get stressed – whether it be about their own weight, their attire, or their wallet. That means the whole place could potentially be full of wired, jittery folks trying not to crack under the pressure. The simple solution? Sleep. If the planners are relaxed, everyone else will feel at ease too.
Why You Can’t Sleep During Wedding Planning
There are plenty of reasons why you can’t sleep in general. See those cards above? Yeah. So many things can go wrong with your sleep, and those don’t even include reasons related to little devils masquerading as humans waking you up throughout the night. But, when it comes to why you can’t sleep during wedding planning, I think there’s a few obvious culprits, right? Let’s take a look.
A Busy Mind
One of my good friends is getting married in October. I asked her the other day, via text, if she had anything left to plan and she replied with a quick line about a suit… and then another about flowers… and then about fourteen more single-word texts that showed me just how much she has on her brain. I’ve been married a few years now, but I remember how it goes. You start playing all the things you have to do on a loop, wonder if you’ve forgotten something, and constantly have to recalculate your budget. It’s a lot, seriously. With all that going on it’s no wonder you can’t sleep during wedding planning.
This is the big one, right? Who doesn’t have anxiety when they’re planning their wedding? Like I said, even your guests get weird about it! Society’s made us a little wedding crazy and we want everything to be perfect. But it’s not just that. Are you sure you want to be stuck with that other person for the rest of your life? Do you really even need a wedding? Wouldn’t eloping be better?! Ahhhh!! Science says anxiety does cause sleeplessness (although it can go the other way around too, because anxiety is super fun), so it’s not surprising that one of the most anxiety-inducing experiences of our lives causes us to wander the halls at night, an event-planning zombie.
What You Can Do About It
1. Put Your Phone Away
Study after study shows your phone is keeping you awake, so no matter what the main reason is for your sleepless nights, just go ahead and shut that thing down. Heaven forbid you accidentally check out wedding hairstyles on Pinterest and fall into that rabbit hole. Now, if you want to listen to a sleep podcast or something, I won’t judge you. But no one needs to look at the screen for a podcast. Let me say this again: If you can’t sleep during wedding planning, PUT YOUR PHONE AWAY!!!
Meditation is a cool way to get your mind relaxed. I know some of you are probably like no way, that’s too hippy-dippy for me. But really, there’s a ton of benefits to it and you don’t have to get all “Ommm”d out. Try an app like this (but leave the phone on the nightstand when you’re done!) or, if you think technology and meditation shouldn’t go together, a book like this. Believe it or not, I actually enjoy meditation. My overwhelm level is typically high, so it helps sometimes to pretend to be a mountain. That’s not a joke. Guided meditation both cracks me up and relaxes me, and I absolutely recommend you give it a try.
3. Figure out a Bedtime Ritual
This one might help those of you brides who absolutely cannot stop thinking about your wedding day. You know why? Because you can incorporate planning into your routine! This seems counterintuitive, but making lists is actually a pretty typical suggestion on how to turn off your brain before bed. Even though I am a huge fan of automated to-do lists, you should do this on paper if you’re trying to get to sleep. I suggest starting with the terrifying list of things you still need to do for the wedding, then perhaps a less stressful one like a regular to-do list, then finish up with a comforting one of all the things you got accomplished in the past week of planning. Will that be repetitive if you do it every night? Absolutely! That’s sort of the point.
4. Skip the Booze
You know what I like to have to calm down after an exhausting day of… whatever it is that I do? A glass of wine of course. Unless I’m too tired, because you know what happens then? I take a sip and then pass out on the couch. Next, I wake up at midnight, irritated I have to walk upstairs. Then I wake up again because guess what folks? Alcohol actually prevents you from getting a good night’s sleep! College me would be shocked to learn this, but it’s true. Plus, if you’re following in my footsteps, you’ve also wasted wine because that glass will still be there on the table the next morning. So, if you’re trying to keep yourself perky and not use all those bottles you could serve at your wedding, cut back on your alcohol intake.
5. Get Crafty
Suppose you put that phone away and you just can’t get into meditation. What then? Well, did you know that coloring for adults has proven health benefits, both emotionally and intellectually? It’s known to calm the part of the brain that releases the stress response, which is probably firing on all cylinders as you’re planning your perfect wedding day. Similar to meditation, coloring also helps you quiet a busy mind. Selecting a detailed coloring pattern helps with your focus and encourages overall mindfulness. Unwind after a long day of planning with these beautiful printable pages from Gifts.com, and you’ll find yourself relaxing in no time.
Those are my tips for anyone who can’t sleep during wedding planning. Of course, if you’re already going to sleep just fine but you can’t stay asleep or wake up unrefreshed, you might want to visit your doctor – or go mattress shopping. Either way, I hope you all get well-rested and throw the best events you can!